Today is Wednesday, & that means playgroup. I don't always go during winter months, but Hannah was extra busy & crazy this morning so I thought we could use the outing. Having other kids to play with would be good for her & I knew I would enjoy some adult conversation.
There is a little friend that Hannah adores & usually plays with so well, but today there was an incident involving another child's stroller. No one saw what happened, but being that 2-year-olds aren't the best at sharing just yet.... in her frustration, over who knows what, she bit her little friend on the arm!! (Sorry to all of Hannah's Grandma's, she isn't perfect!) I was so devastated & upset that I literally became nauseous! I know that toddlers bite... (heck, Hannah has been bit twice and one of them I don't even know who was to blame... ) but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with, especially when it's your kid doing the biting!
I immediately removed her from the situation & had her apologize to her sobbing friend. Then we sat down for a little "Time Away" to decompress, talk about our actions & what would have been the better way to handle our frustration. The mom of our little victim was GREAT, she kept telling me it was okay, things happen and she knows that Hannah is not a mean kid. But I don't want to be the mother of a child no one wants to play with, or wants their kids to play with... perhaps I am being a little dramatic (it's what I do...), but it's hard to have your child do something out of their own free will & choice, and yet you feel like it is a reflection upon you and your parenting. (Which, I know it isn't, but you get the point, right?)
I know that this is just the beginning of a lifetime of Hannah using her agency, and there is only so much we can do! I will have to learn to deal with and accept these changes, but I promise, I won't eve like them!! It's just one of those downsides to motherhood!
2 comments:
Oh meg... I have to say I heard about Hannah's little biting moment from our MOM...and Oh I know you have heard this ...all kids do it...its a quick reaction.. all she is have to do now is bare her teeth and the kids will go running..haha not funny its just a joke.. anywho kids will be kids and to shed any light on your feelings on this is a fault on parenting.. I have to say no.. you and Jeff are such great parents and anyone who comes in contact with you know that... keep your head up next week she will be doing something as equally horrifying...but then it won't. Kids get over things as do parents and its just her being a kid.
NO one wants their kid to be the biter, or the smelly kid, or the nerdy loser kid. I am sure with how well you handle things and talk to Hannah about it, it won't become a regular thing. I am impressed with your parenting!
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